First of all, I can totally relate to crying as a first response to hurt or anger! It sounds like this woman is really insecure. It’s not normal to use children against each other or as a way to criticize another mom’s choices, and it sounds like this lady has done both. That being said, confrontation is hard for a lot of people (🙋🏼♀️). I’m not sure if you need to have a conversation with her at first- maybe just take as much distance as possible for now. Write a letter to her about all the ways you feel, all the things she’s done to piss you off, but don’t send it. Just have it on your computer so that if she doesn’t take the hint by the distance, you could use it as a guide for the “break up”. (In person, on the phone, by email- no judgements!) As far as telling the other moms what she’s said about them- I would probably decide on a per case basis: will it change anything if they knew? (Other than them not liking her anymore) Finally, I hope you understand that this woman’s words and negativity aren’t about you at all- she’s probably not going to change, no matter what you say to her anyhow. I hope you can find some other cool moms to hang out with because you sound like a good friend!
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I remember this well! Things I would do: Waking the babe to do a feeding around 11-11:30pm, don’t turn on lights when the baby wakes at night (except a nightlight for diaper changes) and minimal eye contact and talking at night. Also, i tried to put baby down for naps when relaxed but not totally asleep so i could do the same at night! I think it’s important to remember that it’s really normal for babies to wake at night for many months (even though it sucks!) Good luck, Mama!!
8cm dilated. Transition. One of the toughest parts of labour, and when you may wanna give up. I know I asked for a c-section at this point during both of my unmedicated births. Thankfully, it's usually the shortest stage of labour to get from 7-10 centimetres because it is INTENSE. But it's a good intense because every contraction is getting you closer to your baby. When you're in transition: 🌹You need a lot of reassurance to keep going. 🌹You need to let your body tell you how to move to deal with this stage. 🌹You need safety and silence to ride the waves of your contractions. 🌹You may even need someone to look you straight in the eyes and breathe through the surges with you. A lot of untrained birth partners find transition hard to watch because they believe the birthing person is suffering. But this pain is different from regular pain. This pain has a distinct purpose in normal birth and it means that something is going right, not wrong. What have you heard about labour pain? Comment below and let's have a conversation about it!👇
I’ve had this question sooooo many times over the years, but Sam from BabyReadylgbtq answers it so well. Watch the 1 minute video!
Babies don’t nipple feed!
You know how scary it is when you file your taxes because you KNOW that if you screw something up you can't fix it by saying, "I had no idea!"? That's what this Mama Talk is about. Tax season is coming, Mama! I talked with family and disability tax expert, Jon Law from JL Bookkeeping all about those things you need to know. Watch now!
I teamed up with family and disability tax expert Jon Law from JL Bookkeeping for the second episode of tax information for Canadian parents! It can feeling daunting and overwhelming to apply for this tax credit at a time when you're probably already pretty stressed. Click to watch the video as Jon explains all the details about how to apply and what NOT to do! If you have questions or comments, leave them below!
Founder of MamaSoup talks to Jon Law from JL Bookkeeping to about childcare deductions and credits you can claim for 2021. It's been quite a year for parents so we want to make your taxes a little easier to navigate. For instance, did you know that if your family members helped watch the kids and you paid them, it's not tax deductible? This is the first in a weekly series of 5 amazingly educational talks about all things parenting and taxes, so make sure you subscribe to our channel so you don't miss a thing!
If you've got a teenager with a part time job, make sure they're filing tax returns! I had no idea that it could affect a parent's GST or baby bonus...watch as I talked with parenting and disability tax expert Jon Law about the importance of teens filing taxes.
After talking to my husband about a mom who'd reached out to me about her teenager's anxiety, we decided to talk about it in a Zoom chat. We're also dealing with it and we felt it was a good time to open up the conversation.
Recently, a mom reached out about her teenager having severe anxiety. To the point of not being able to attend school. Covid has done a number on all of us, but teens have been hit especially hard. They were told that it wasn't safe enough to go to school last year, but they're "frontline heroes" when they go to their jobs serving fast food and coffee! My own kids have struggled this year. I haven't always known what to do to help them and I'm sure at some points I made it worse. I often feel lost when dealing with these sensitive issues because I'm not a psychiatrist! How are you helping your teens deal with depression and anxiety? Do you have any favourite resources?
Are parenting duties ever really equal? With all the talk of the emotional and mental load of motherhood, we had a discussion about how to ask for help and what to do if your partner doesn't naturally 'step-up'. This is a good one!
We haven’t always been good about managing our kids’ expectations around holiday time and it has caused some major STRESS! What are you struggles when it comes to kids and seasonal holidays? Here’s a link to the full chat: https://youtu.be/_QfB-aiV0kI
Confidence in your body to have a baby starts in your head, Mama. No matter what kind of birth you're planning. It can take nine months to shift your mindset and destroy all of the prior messaging you've been dealt about giving birth. It can take a shit-ton of work to trust yourself enough to speak up and advocate for yourself so you can have a birth that leaves you emotionally healthy (However that looks for you). I'm so, so sorry that the medical system and the media has made it normal for you to feel scared of birth instead of empowered by what your body can do. What's the number one thing you're scared about?
Hi there! I just interviewed a Registered Early Childhood Educator for the blog and she gave a couple of strategies for helping your child develop their speech! Check it out here: http://blog.mamasoup.ca/doing-childcare-right-an-interview-with-a-registered-early-childhood-educator
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You can do ANYTHING for 30 seconds. Just take labour 30 seconds at a time.
I used to be on welfare because I was a young, single mom. I struggled daily with decisions like, “feed the kids or keep the lights on?” I felt worthless as a mom because we were in that situation. I felt hopeless as a woman because it didn’t seem like there was a way out. Today, I’m remarried and I have a healthy, happy family and a thriving business. if you’re struggling today, reach out and talk about it. Never give up hope because things can change in a second! I’m cheering you on, Mama!🤗
A recent study found that, " while the majority of women felt prepared to care for their baby, 92% said there were parts of the postpartum period they were not prepared for. Nearly two-thirds or more were unprepared for breastfeeding, mental health concerns, lack of sleep, and physical recovery."
As a nurse, doula and Lamaze childbirth educator, you'd think that my favourite part of birth was the birth part... but I LOVE to support women after their babies are born. Do you have any questions about postpartum recovery?
I just saw this on Instagram...
You didn’t mention whether or not you’re breastfeeding, but this is pretty typical behaviour for a breastfed baby. The one thing I would try is to wake her more often during the day for feedings. Unswaddle, undress her and do whatever it takes to wake her up. Try to cram in a few more feedings during the day, especially in the evening. Make sure she stays on the first breast until she decides to unlatch so she’s getting the fatty hindmilk (it will keep her full longer). Good luck!!
Wow are you ever amazing, Mama- you are worried about screen time and so many other moms aren’t! Honestly, my last 2 kids LOVED those videos and they were a lifesaver for me! My kids would stay glued to the tv while i made school lunches for the older 2 kids, showered and even made dinner. I’m sure Baby Einstein was on for more than 12 minutes a day at one point! You’re doing great and I don’t think a little extra screen time is going to do any real harm to your babe!